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The Gift of Chores

The longest longitudinal study of humans is the Harvard Grant Study that began in 1938 is still being continued today.  It reveals the two variables from childhood that predict happy and successful adults:

1. Love

2. Good Work Ethic

Based on the experiences of 724 high achievers that were part of the study, childhood chores were the start of their having a “pitch-in” “roll up my sleeves” mindset.  A “pitch-in mind-set” says, “there is some unpleasant work to be done, someone has to do it; it might as well be me.”

A University of Minnesota 20 year study found best predictor of adult success was if they began doing chores as early as 3 and 4 years old.  

Chores provide the satisfaction of applying effort and accomplishing a goal.  Contributing as part of the household develops good citizens with a team mindset  that will be helpful in future relationships and workplace settings. 

For some age appropriate ideas – free download: https://your-modern-family.ck.page/1a1d0d6565. https://www.fatherly.com/news/a-montessori-chart-of-age-appropriate/

What is a chore? Part of “being the family responsibilities” are not chores.  Responsibilities are make your bed, clean up after meal, put dirty/clean clothes in appropriate place, unload/load dishwasher, personal care – bathe, get dressed, brush teeth. What is your idea of a chore? Would you consider raking the leaves, yard work, vacuuming out the van, and cleaning the bathroom chores, ironing a chore?

Don’t do for someone what they can do for themselves.  It may seem kind, but not giving our kids chores may actually be handicapping them long term.  Let’s give our children the gift of chores.  Research shows it is the path to happiness. 

Take it further: TED TALK https://www.ted.com/talks/julie_lythcott_haims_how_to_raise_successful_kids_without_over_parenting/transcript?language=en

The mission of  More to Grow Cognitive Development Training is to improve learning ability and function through cognitive exercises that meaningfully transfer to all educational and everyday life situations so individuals maximize their potential. 

Darlene Lewis, darlene@moretogrow.com, https://moretogrow.com